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This week it’s real talk, things we can let go of as we embrace being in our 40’s.
Let’s start with your self talk.
What are you saying to yourself on a daily basis? The reason it’s good to explore this is because our thoughts have tremendous power over our lives. The conversation you have with yourself is the longest one you will ever have.
So now you are in your 40’s what is it going to be?
Are you going to repeat the same conversation telling yourself that you are not good enough, that you’re getting old and life is all down hill from here.
Or will your self talk encourage you to TAKE UP SPACE, say yes to opportunities, drop into that wise resilient self deep inside and break and kick through the old fable that has been fed to us that a women’s self-worth is wrapped around a sell by date.
Here is the thing and something I wish I could whisper to my 21 year old self… you are enough darling, you don’t need to keep proving yourself continuously and shrink your personality and body to be liked and to fit in. Stop chasing what you think you should be and start living who you want to be.
I want to let go of the chase and embrace living.
What do you want to let go of? What do you want to embrace in this new chapter?
The forties are a wild ride and a place where if you do not do the work then you can become stuck and locked into an old narrative and start walking backwards through life on auto-pilot.
Why do I love coaching women in their 40’s? It’s because this is the place where things really start to become interesting. This is a powerful magnificent phase that we weren’t told about it but it truly is. How you reshape your life now has a physical, mental and emotional impact on your future. And as a society we are all living longer.
Living is a privilege. We are here, we get to circle the sun and be alive. Aging is living. When you lift the veil on that ageism soundtrack, you will see that culturally we live in a society where the magnifying lens is on staying young forever, which is factually incorrect. You have to age in order to live.
What if in our forties we embraced a self talk filled with gratitude for living, embraced the sexy experience and wisdom accumulated by living on this gorgeous planet for over 40 years. What if we decided how we were going to show up and stepped into our power.
What a fantastic world that would be.
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Jo Fiddy is a Confidence Coach helping women in their 40’s get their confidence back and start thriving.
